I AM NOT MY MISTAKES
Mistakes are something that we have made or keep making every day at every time.
Although some mistakes may be bigger and have serious consequences than others, all mistakes are mistakes. And Everyone makes mistakes.
“A mistake is an act of judgment that is misguided or wrong”
It is a deviation from the right, accuracy, correctness, or truth.
As human beings, sometimes we make mistakes of trusting the wrong people, we enter into wrong relationships, engage in certain conducts that we have no business getting ourselves in, we choose wrong friends, enter into wrong marriages, and many more. These mistakes depending on the severity of them have either affected our life paths or futures plans or even the way we think and function. They have, therefore, shaped our sense of judgment, our trusts, the way we love others, or the way we function.
So how do we go to live a normal life after we have made mistakes?
Recognize your mistakes
Because we are human, we are bound to make mistakes. So when you make mistakes, sit down and analyze everything, take ownership of your mistakes. Feel genuine remorse and move on from it.
The truth is you can’t change the past, you can only learn from it and do better from then on. let the mistakes be lessons that guide you to become better version of yourself.
Lessons in the mistakes
I say this with all my heart, stop feeling guilty and ashamed because of your past mistakes. They are your life’s guide and lessons from now on. we are humans and mistakes do happen whether we want it or not. So don’t let your mistakes define who you become.
remember that, every mistake we have made, have prepared us for the path we are on today.
Mistakes are a blessing in disguise so instead of dwelling in your past mistakes and letting it stop you from becoming who God created you to be.
Do your homework and learn the lessons from the mistakes and use them to your advantage.
Stop feeling guilty
When we make mistakes, it is normal to feel guilty, because as human beings we usually feel guilty when we feel we have caused harm to someone or even to ourselves.
Research has proven that human beings feel close to Five hours of guilty every week.
This is not to say guilt is good, but it shows us that guilt is part of our lives. It is however how we deal with the guilt we feel that is the problem.
When the guilt we feel prevents us from doing things that are beneficial to our growth or interrupts our normal everyday life then it is a problem.
Embrace the good things that come out of the mistakes
Sometimes we make mistakes that cause us to lose people in our lives like people we thought were friends. And when that happens, we blame ourselves, we cry but what we forget is that no true friends will leave you in times of mistakes. So if you lose friends or family members at your hardest times, it means there were not good for you and they were going to leave no matter what. Mistakes have a way of revealing your true friends and lovers.
Stop caring about what others think about you
I know it is easier said than done but it is very simple, stop giving people the power over you.
Because it doesn’t really matter what you do whether good or bad, people will still have something to say about you. People always seek to find the worst in people and that is a fact. So focus on being the best version of yourself instead of wasting your time on what others may think.
Note that, how people think about you in many cases has nothing to do with you. In actual sense, some people normally project their own insecurities on others. such people thrive on making others feel as though they are less human because of their mistakes. As a result, they try so hard to find fault in others so that they don’t have to look at their own fault. They project what they fear others will notice about them unto the people they feel have made mistakes.
Also, some people who are dissatisfied with their own life will pinpoint mistakes in others to make themselves feel better.
This is the reason why you don’t have to pay attention to what others may think about your mistakes. Everyone has their own cross to carry.
Personally, I have made many mistakes in my past that I am not proud of. some of my mistakes, if I could turn back the hands of the clock, I would have done things differently.
To name a few, I have entered into relationships that I was not supposed to. I have trusted people that I was not supposed to. I have said things out of anger that I wholeheartedly regret. There are many things that I had done in the past that I wish I had done differently, however, I can not change the past.
What I can do now is to reflect on my mistakes and do better from here on. I will continue to work on myself to become a better person than I was a year ago. But while I work on myself to become a better version of myself, I will also keep reminding myself that I am not my mistakes.
I am not my mistakes
Yes I have made a lot of mistakes and God knows I will keep making some more mistakes but I am not the old naive girl who made those stupid mistakes.
I have grown and learned from my mistakes.
I am grown, matured, and wiser now to make better choices.
My past mistakes are in my past and I pray to God every day to give me the strength to never repeat those mistakes again. I have come to terms with my mistakes and have learned to be thankful for those mistakes.
As a result, I am a better person than who I was back then. I know better now and so I do better now.
My past is my past and I am working hard to create a better present.
Today I choose to be happy and move forward.
I am no longer a slave to my past.
I am free from my past.
I am a survivor.
I am an overcomer.
I am peaceful.
I am loveable.
I am a child of GOD.